Declarations

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posted Jun 25, 2017


“Mom,” my sixteen-year-old daughter asked me one day, “did you know there’s a scale for sexual orientation, zero for exclusively heterosexual and six for exclusively homosexual?” A few seconds later she added, “I’m a three.” This was not news to me. She’d struggled quite openly for the past two...

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Of Thee I Sing

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posted May 28, 2016


I recently realized that my lifetime struggles with singing mirror exactly my lifetime struggles with self-acceptance and self-expression. What a cliché. From the age of 5 or 6, singing was a source of joy, of wings for me. Apparently, my rendition at the age of 6 of My Favorite...

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Making the Choice, No Matter What Happens...

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posted Jan 11, 2016


“We’ll always keep in touch, no matter what happens.” “I’ll never betray you, no matter what happens.” “I’ll always love you, no matter what happens.” These are things we all say in a moment of raw, intense feeling.  We really mean the first part; boy do we mean it!...

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Sleep is Weird

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posted Apr 25, 2015


Nothing makes you grasp how weird sleep is quite like going to sleep for the night in the clothes you wore that day. You take off your shoes and, still wearing shirt, pants, socks, and even the leather belt you had on, just lie on the bed (blanket optional),...

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What’s wrong with navel-gazing anyway?...

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posted Mar 28, 2015


Some people use the accusation of “gazing at your own navel” to dismiss a self-exploratory mental exercise as useless, self-indulgent, narcissistic, or worse, primitive.  Something an ape might do.  But an ape doesn’t ruminate as we do, not about its navel or anything else, and so I reject that characterization. To people...

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